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take it slow

love is (and should be) developed slowly.

because too much excitement leads you to say or do things that you wouldn't do in a rational mood.

you might end up committing too early.

you might end up judging too early.

you might end up saying things that make you sound like a jerk.

so avoid being in a hurry.

take it slow. control that excitement and please don't think about giving her good night kisses and having cute lil kids.

avoid that day-dreaming. it'll create false expectations and will hurt you when things won't go the way you had dreamt.

also true love develops when it goes through a persistence-test

in my definition, a persistence-test is basically a period when circumstances don't allow the proximity of any kind, or sometimes we just get bored.

i.e. you don't talk to her for a long time and she also can't for N number of reasons like changing circumstances, places, work, etc.

in this time the thread of love bw you and her becomes really weak and in 99% of the cases it breaks. both ends fall apart and both get busy in their own lives. forgetting each other.

the rest 1% who survive become "made-for-each-other" kinda thing (i ain't shakespeare) for forever.

also i think the reason this 1% group survives is because they genuinely love each other. not sexual attraction, not desire to have a cute looking gf/bf, etc. just pure love.

during persistence-test both try hard to not break that thread of proximity, love, care.

(just to note that this persistence-test doesn't happen once only. it takes place throughout whole life. true love just becomes pro at dealing with it.)

so take it slow. time is the best conclusion-er (yeah i made this word up but you get the vibe).